When One Door Closes another Door Opens

When One Door Closes another Door Opens You have likely heard the phrase, “When one door closes another door opens.” I heard it first a few years back. At the time, I was focusing so hard on the what I was losing I almost missed the meaning in the words. However, later that day it came back to mind. For a few minutes, I wondered what they … Continue reading

Learn Acoustic Guitar Songs at Home

Learn Acoustic Guitar Songs

Learn Acoustic Guitar Songs at Home After a recent surgery, I found myself looking for things to keep stress down and a good attitude up. I found exactly that when I picked up my step-daughter’s guitar and decided to learn acoustic guitar songs while I healed from surgery. At 45 years old, I was surprised to find a free, easy, fun, and healthy hobby that had similar emotional, … Continue reading

Healing Power of Music

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A Personal Experience with the Healing Power of Music Over the past few years, life taught me some unexpected lessons (a good thing). One lesson includes a greater respect for the healing power of music. This lesson wasn’t learned in a classroom, book or from a friend. Instead, it was experienced firsthand. 30,000 Foot View of My Life Over the past 45 years, my time was spent … Continue reading

Handling Difficult People

Handling Difficult People

Handling Difficult People We all eventually find ourselves trying to improve our skills for handling difficult people. There is likely even someone you know who sets you off like an atomic bomb. Maybe they constantly criticize you, put you down in front of others, take credit for your good work, constantly kiss up to the boss, or can never admit they are wrong. That list could go … Continue reading

Ten Time Proven Principles of Success

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10 Time Proven Principles of Success Ever wish a book of answers to life’s questions would fall out of the sky? Careful, it may land on your head. Here is Chapter 1 – The Principles of Success. I recently came across a list of 10 factors the Investor’s Business Daily (IBD) published in answer to the question, “What is the Secret of Success?”. The IBD studied industry … Continue reading

Thanksgiving Quotes & Toast

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The tradition of the Thanksgiving Quotes and Toast exists in many forms in homes across the world. It is often as simple as a lone traveler thinking few quiet thoughts over a meal at a truck-stop. Sometimes, it coalesces from the hearts of soldiers, sailors, and airman who share a meal on foreign soils (god bless and thank you). Other times it takes on tradition across the … Continue reading

Difference between Helping and Enabling

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Difference between Helping and Enabling Relationship marketing requires a great deal of emotional intelligence. Lots of people get out there, and establish relationships with their target market only to find out months or years later that there is no reciprocation to be enjoyed. A large part of why and how this happens relates to the difference between helping customers and enabling them. When you help, you do … Continue reading

The Pursuit of Happiness

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Pursuit of Happiness The Research Modern research helps us in our pursuit of happiness. By studying identical twins, researchers have determined approximately about 50% of the variation in our happiness levels is determined by our genes makeup. This is called a genetic set point / range. This is the range of happiness we return after really good or bad things happen (our default operating zone). By studying … Continue reading

Find Inner Strength (Willpower)

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Finding Inner Strength (Willpower) The other day, one of my daughters asked where I find the strength (willpower) to deal with everything life throws at me. At the time, we were talking about the seemingly endless list of stuff that stands in the way of our goals. I answered, “I’ve had lots of practice over the years. Everything I’ve dealt with in my life helped me build … Continue reading

Living on Purpose

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How to Start Living on Purpose Lots of people have written all sorts of obvious stuff about living on purpose. What isn’t plainly obvious is what happens as a result of not living on purpose. If you want to see the outcome of letting others determine your destiny, truly listen to any person who blames others or “the system” for their lot in life. Inversely, listen to … Continue reading

How to Focus through Procrastination.

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As we grow, we learn how to focus through procrastination and paralysis. This is not something we are born with. It is something we learn. If your life is anything like my own, you need to know how to focus through both triumph and turmoil! You especially need to know how to focus even when all the drama in the universe is knocking at your front door. … Continue reading

How to Change Your Life

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How to change your life is something we’ve all wondered. The ironic part of that is how deep down in our heart of hearts we know our lives are constantly changing. We and the world we shape around us change from the moment we’re born to the moment we pass on to new beginnings. What are you really looking for when you search for hints and secrets … Continue reading

Cognitive Dissonance from Worry & Productivity from Concern

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Cognitive Dissonance from Worry & Productivity from Concern Most of us have occasional times when we’re concerned with something. Some of us spend almost every moment consumed with anxious thoughts and uncertainty that create a crippling state of unease. Many of us (me included) have funky days/weeks when our inner compass keeps pivoting between those two paths. This feeling of inner strife is often described by people … Continue reading

Lead a Victorious Life

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How do we lead a victorious life? A leader I respect and learn much from (Dan Miller) included this poem in a recent news letter from his web community (www.48days.net). It hit home because I’m setting out on a new journey in my own life as I retire from 25 years of military service and pursue several new adventures at the same time. This poem (by C.W. … Continue reading

How to Manage a Bad Day

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How to deal with a bad day. No matter how optimistic and positive you are, you’re going to have bad days. We all do. They are necessary. If you didn’t have bad days for contrast, what would make the good days good? My most recent day of “less than productive activity” was a perfect example. It started with the second flat tire in two days. That fun … Continue reading

Does attention to detail matter in leadership?

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A tiny little detail of leadership humbled me today. I experienced my first recognizable example of truly great leadership decades back while attending a six week leadership course (aptly named Airman Leadership School). The course prepares junior enlisted airman for upcoming responsibilities as supervisors of others. The schoolhouse was a small one. It felt similar to a really nice library or study. As I waited (with about … Continue reading

Opportunity & Attitude …Related?

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Opportunity & Attitude – Related??? My friends (Opportunity and Attitude) are co-dependent partners in a venture called life. You’ve heard the whole thing about the camel, three shepherds, and a glass of water. …right? Wait, that is a different story. This one talks about how pessimists see the glass half empty while optimists see it as half full. So, what does that have to do with opportunity? … Continue reading

Bulletproof! – How do we become “Bulletproof”?

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How do we become Bulletproof? In order to become “Bulletproof” at a task, I hedge my “cost ≤ benefit bet”. I do this by knowing and actively managing my “self”. To explore that, we will have to swim in the deep end of the thought pool…swim this lap with me and we shall learn as we go. My first significant wartime experience included a perception of little … Continue reading

Bulletproof! – Why do we have periods of success and failure?

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What is bulletproof? Pretty much everyone has heard the term “bulletproof”. If you haven’t, email me and I’ll set you straight. That said, I’m not sure if you have heard the expression in the context of leadership risk. I’ve been lucky enough to have three mentors in the same organization explain it to me over my 25 year career therein. Each time the term came up I … Continue reading